Have you ever had a misunderstanding or misunderstood something?
In one Newsletter we spoke about how communication is an Art.
Welcome to Newsletter 33!
Well today's story is a real experience of mine. The reason why I am writing about this is because I am sure that I am not the only one out there with a situation like this or similar.
One of my favorite people on the planet is Lisa Nichols. Have you heard of her? Lisa Nichols always taught to be vulnerable to share a true part of your life because it is relatable. However, to be so vulnerable and honest about a part of one's life is very scary because I wonder what people think and I wonder how other people will react when they are part of my story and I speak about something that they are involved in and tell the truth about it.
When I wrote Animals Amazing Secrets, I shared parts of my life that I often wonder what are people going to think about me. Come, we all have our opinions, don't we? I did it and I wrote very personal things about myself because that is the real truth.
It is not always roses and cream. It may look that way on the outside, but on the inside, it is sometimes a very sad, lonely and dark place to be and it actually makes me cry thinking about it.
So here is my story. I have been working day and night to put together newsletters and attach them to blogger, pinterest and utube and mailchimp, etc to share my passion with all of you. My heart and my soul, the Animal kingdom and I have been working quite a long time day and night. Yesterday, I really needed some downtime and a break. The only breaks I really take are to do some stress releasing and release my frustrations, etc. so that I can move forward. Yesterday happened to be a day, that I took a break.
I live in the same house as one of my brothers. Yesterday, happened to be a day where one of my brothers and I bumped into each other as he happened to open up his door and I asked since the to throw away your garbage is 10 minutes away by foot, I asked if he would throw away my garbage and he was in a hurry. He said yes. As he was quickly going away he said he invited some people over tonight and I am invited as a famous singer is coming.
May I ask you personally, if someone said they are inviting a few people over and a famous singer is coming, what would you think? Would you think it is like maybe 6 people, 4 people that are coming or even 8 people. How would you know?
I said where ? And he said in the basement. I thought to myself a bunch of people are coming over and they will be holding a type of concert in the basement. You see my brother used to play on the keyboards in a band as a young man and he is an extremely good keyboard player. He is a natural when he plays keyboards. He is really nice to listen to as he is extremely talented, but most people have not supported him, but I do. You know when you are put down so much you do not believe in yourself. You cannot believe how many times he said last night, oh I am not good at all. As he has not played in a very long time, but the minute his hands touched the keyboards, it was like magic. I wish I could express to you in this newsletter how magical he plays. Just picture your favorite song and how lovely it may sound to you or anything that you may love and how good you feel about it. That is how he plays, where you feel touched and really beautiful. I honor him, but he just puts himself down.
I thought he was inviting a lot of people and it was outside of the basement in the dark and I invited 2 lovely people over and I got hell for it. I got reprimanded how dare I without asking invite two people to a private party and how disrespectful I was. I actually talked these to lovely people into coming cause I said my brother plays really well and I wanted them to hear my brother. I really like these two people a lot cause they are very kind and helpful. I really like talking to the one lady, because she is an amazing person. I really like who she is. Anyways, I was respecting my brother by honoring him saying how lovely he plays and his girlfriend gave me hell last night. How dare I invite someone over to your brothers special night. They cooked all day for this lady who was coming to play music and I said I had no idea that they cooked.
The people I invited did not eat, they came 2 hours later. The man brought a special whisky over that he himself made. I do not drink whiskey so I gave it to my family. They both did not eat anything at all. Nothing at all.
Anyways, I got hell for inviting them, where they did not do a thing, just sit and talk a little with my brothers girlfriend and she enjoyed talking to the man cause he is a very nice person. Then I really got hell how dare I be so disrespectful and invite two people over without asking. I said I didnt know my brother had a special day planned, no one told me and I was reprimanded again, like that is not the point. I was trying to say well he didnt tell me he was cooking all day and bla bla and it was his special night for him to play and this lady to sing. I thought it was outside in the dark, that more people were coming and that in the dark it would not matter if I invited 2 people over to the crowd where my brother was playing and a lady was singing. I had no idea that dinner was planned cause my brother said it was with crackers and a spread and to be at his birthday it was exactly store bought crackers with a little spread, and a few pretzels so I figured that is all he was doing is giving us crackers to munch on. I had no idea it was a sit down dinner in the basement. Oh by the way I would never invite two strangers over to anyone's apartment without asking. That I would never do.
I got to be honest, I finally took a little time off and I get hell for it. Really reminds me of sherades, you tell someone something and something else comes out of it. I said well my brother should have told me that he was doing something special and I was told NO he did not have to tell you anything and you should have asked. I hate those comments. Have you ever had any of this or similar happen to you?
Can you relate in any way? How communication is such an art? Can you imagine that is why learning to communicate properly is an art and everyone has a different vision of how they see things. His girlfriend felt that my brother did not need to tell me anything. I felt that he should have said, I am having about 8 people over. I am making food all day and this day is special to me because I am going to play music with a special singer, but that is not the information I was told and then I got hell for inviting two people over that she enjoyed talking to. Does that make sense to any of you?
I got home and my cat vomitted.
What do you think my cat was telling me?
I mean yes you could say the food did not fit well in his stomach, but wouldn't you say that matched my mood. I vomitted up what happened to me. Sorry. Our animals are always a direct reflection of how we are feeling. I will let go of the upset, however, whilst I was riled up, I wanted to share how communication is an Art and we all hear different things. I wanted to share a part of my life and I wanted to see how you feel. Ask yourself inside about both sides of the story.
I personally would have never ever invited anyone to their private home if it was in their private home without asking, never ever.
I think people are not busy if they can get mad about such a lovely gesture.
My Business partner in Animal Communication would say, make everything no matter what it is great. He would say, WOW, I am so excited I got the honor to meet 2 lovely people in addition into my life that I had a lovely conversation with. How precious is that. That is what he would say. He takes everything and turns it into something beautiful.
You see we can take anything and see it in a way off it being bad or good. So after this scenario happened and honestly I desperately needed a break from doing all this work in Animal Communication. I spoke to my childhood girlfriend, and I literally know her since I was like 3 years old and that is 61 years and she absolutely loves my brother that was playing music. He saved her once where some guys were going to beat her and my brother said if you touch her you have to go through me first, so since then she remembered it and always tells me how much she loves him. I on the other hand as she knows ..have a kind of warped relationship with my brother. Sometimes, I get lucky haha when I work on myself a lot to not take on his unsatisfied, forceful ways of being mean to me. Anyways, my childhood girlfriend said to me why would that be such a problem. I mean the way I understood it she said was it was outside and a bunch of people were coming and I knew it was not in their home. In the end I was not sure and I almost cancelled the people I invited, I have to be honest. My childhood gf was saying how much that that is so trivial and that I was honoring my brothers talents telling the people I invited how lovely my brother plays and you gotta come and listen. I really did say that. I really was honoring my brother, even though he is often not nice to me, I am still a very nice person. My childhood girlfriend who knows a lot about who I am and how I think, always says you would never hurt a fly. Well honestly, yesterday I was thinking as the animal communicator I actually kill flies. I was thinking to myself I should try to tell them to leave cause you can actually do that and it does happen.
Have you had that happen before? You have told a bee to leave and it did? I have so many times. They hear us and they listen.
This is a great reminder writing this blog.
So I have diverted all over the place. My girlfriend said to me, that I am the nicest person in the world and I only had really nice intentions. I was saying how lovely my brother plays. I was honoring him and I really was from the bottom of my heart. I had no ill intentions at all and I do not know why it was such a bad thing to invite 2 people in the basement or outside of the basement to listen to my brother play. I had no idea it was a kind of private party where my brother cooked all day. My friends did not eat. They even brought a homemade bottle of whiskey.
So my cat vomitted when I got home. I really believe that nothing happens for nothing. Maybe the food did not sit right with him? Why would that be like that do you believe?
If I was no longer happy, I take that home with me and guess who gets the brunt of it?? Mr. Kitty and why should Mr. Kitty feel miserable, why? It makes me sad sometimes you know, that our furry friends take on so much of our garbage. If we are feeling bad, we need to release all of it immediately. That said, I am going to ask all of you to take a look at yourselves today and see what you need to release.
I am going to take time for Barbara and release my sadness about it, because my kitty does not deserve any of my sad feelings, so I will release my sadness. I know I did not wrong and it is so trivial. It is not a life and death situation. It is not an animal dying, it is not important in the kingdom of heaven that I invited 2 beautiful and very lovely people over who were extremely kind to my brother and his girlfriend and very well mannered, more than well mannered, extremely beautiful people.
Today, I wanted to share a part of my life with you because Lisa Nichols always says, share YOU and be vulnerable.
I want to ask all of you CAN YOU RELATE? Can you relate to misunderstandings as my childhood girlfriend said? Can you relate to miscommunication?
Can you relate to everyone seeing things in a different way in life. One sees that they are honoring someone and the other sees it as how dare you disrespect us and we do not have to tell you anything you were JUST A GUEST.. just a guest.. HOW DARE you think about inviting anyone without asking.
Can you see how all of this triggered blessings, my cat as well to vomit his food?
Can you see how this affected me?
Can you see how it affected my cat?
Can you see how important it is in every aspect of life to get clear communication if you can if the other person gives you clear communication.
Can you see how communication is an Art?
Can you love yourself today for the person that you are, good, bad or indifferent?
Can you take any situation like my Business partner and see the good in it and what you are learning or learned?
Tony Robbins always says it is not happening to you. It is happening for you.
Once again, I emphasize every time take care of yourself and be good to yourself and clear your emotional turmoil like your sadness, hurt and pain cause it affects your furry friends.
I take this to heart because I have seen animals die because we did not release our sadness, our anger, our pain, etc.
Remember, I do hold stress release classes because they are vital for your and your animals well-being.
Thanks for reading this and being here, I really appreciate you!
If I touched someone's life today.. I have made a difference.
Oh last but not least, you can always say or try to say, in my case it was not possible because my brother blocked me and told me he didnt have any time, but if you manifest that you can and you and I can both manifest this.. you can say: Did I understand you correctly? Did I understand you correctly, you are inviting a few people over, does that mean 10 people and you are playing on the keyboards and they are singing at 8 o'clock? By the way, my brother hates when I ask him that, because he feels like I am not listening. It is the opposite, I want to make sure, I understood what was said and to know like I know and this time I was not able to ask.. Those are some tips..
It is a way of communicating that is taught in Life Coaching to see if you picked up and heard the exact message the person was trying to relay to you.
As far as communicating with your furry friend. When you release your sadness and are not sad anymore, your furry friend feels better too and everything changes. You are healthier and so are they. You can ask them... why did you vomit and wait for an answer.
Ask them.. Why did you vomit?
They will tell you, but the first person you need to work on, is yourself as you affect your furry friend.
By the way this is what the number 33 represents:
Number 33 is a Master Number (Master Teacher) and resonates with the energies of compassion, blessings, inspiration, honesty, discipline, bravery and courage. Number 33 tells us that 'all things are possible'. 33 is also the number that symbolizes 'guidance'
Thanks for listening,.. have an amazing and magical day..
this was my longest blog to date...
Barbara Kurtman
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